Channel Partners

February 1, 2005

6 Min Read
Boost Your Sales by Overcoming Your Fear of Rejection

Most people hate hearing the word no. From something as simple as asking for your favorite dish at a restaurant and being told they no longer serve it, to asking your boss for a raise and being turned down, we never like to hear the word no. So who would want to work in a profession in which you would be told no practically every day?Salespeople face the possibility of rejection on a daily basis. After all, not everyone needs the products they are selling, nor can everyone afford them, so prospects and customers say no to salespeople regularly. While salespeople do know they will be told no, their reaction to this rejection is the key to their success and happiness both at their jobs and throughout their lives.Rejection can cause doubt, a sense of failure and stress all negative feelings most people want to avoid. As a salesperson, you must realize that people are not rejecting you as a person; they simply are rejecting what you are selling. So dont let rejection negatively affect your emotions or attitude. If you do, the negative emotions can get you stuck in a vicious cycle of rejection, where the more negative you are, the more people reject you, which causes even more negative emotions and more rejection.Because rejection happens every day in the sales profession, you cannot go into work fearing it. This would affect your confidence, your performance, and ultimately, the companys success. The key to remember when you dont get the sale is that the person is not rejecting you. Therefore, do not take it personally or become upset by it. Also, do not take rejection as a sign of failure. For any no you hear on a given day, you will likely have other sales to make up for it.Remember that you are there to offer a service or product that may meet your customers or prospects needs. So you must discover what these needs are before you attempt the sale. If you have gathered all of the information and you still cant go for the sale because you fear rejection, then use the following tips to overcome your fear.Think of Sales as a Selection Process Rather Than a Rejection ProcessThe customer will select the parts of the product or service youre offering that they need. They may need all or part of it, and they may need it now or later. You are there as an educator. A good salesperson will find out how to meet the customers needs and show the benefits, rather than the features, of buying the product or service. If you cannot meet your customers needs, then always recommend someone who can. Such gestures are often reciprocated.Ask a lot of QuestionsEvaluate your prospects to find out who they are. By asking a lot of questions and understanding to whom you are selling, you will have a better idea of how to approach them with your pitch. As you ask questions, be sure to ask open-ended questions rather than yes or no ones. The more you can get the prospect talking about him or herself, the more information youll gain to close the sale.Evaluate Your Marketplace and Go Where the Fertile Ground IsFollow what the marketplace tells you and go with what has worked in the past. If you know youre targeting the appropriate market for your product or service and that it has worked in the past, you reduce your odds of rejection. If, however, you still hear a lot of no responses, then you need to refocus where and whom youre targeting. Try a different tactic. You want to reduce your odds of rejection in any way you can so you are less likely to face it.Look and Feel Your BestWe all experience more happiness and productivity when we look and feel our best. So look in the mirror and give yourself a pep talk. Tell yourself how great you are. If you dont reject yourself, nobody else can reject you.Get Help When NeededIf these practical strategies to help you overcome your fear of rejection dont work, you may need to dig a little deeper. Search internally to find out where your fear of rejection comes from. Go back to your childhood. Maybe the kids at recess didnt pick you for their team in kickball, or perhaps you were bullied, or maybe you didnt feel loved. Write these things down and remember that they are old and are not pertinent to this situation. Once you are able to get yourself out of the way and think of this case as a separate thing, you will realize that the fear of rejection that was imprinted on you as a child does not, and should not, affect your performance in the sales profession today. If necessary, have a trained professional guide you through this process.Rejection-Proof YourselfWhen you no longer fear rejection, you are better able to focus on your job of selling. You will discover more opportunities for working on your technique or pitch, and youll have more confidence in your abilities as a salesperson, and in yourself as a person. Additionally, when you realize that customers tell salespeople no for a variety of reasons, and none of them usually have to do with you, youll have no reason to fear rejection.You will realize that rejection is part of the sales profession and you will become more motivated to increase your sales, thereby boosting the companys bottom line (and your own).By following the strategies to overcome your fear of rejection, you will become more confident on the job and in life because fear no longer will hold you back. You will bring a more positive attitude to your workplace, and you will enjoy your job more because you will feel less doubt and stress. You no longer will feel like you failed if you dont get the sale because you now realize that you wont always get every sale. And the best part is that you no longer fear rejection. You are a stronger person because you face and deal with rejection every day and you dont take it personally. Every company would benefit from having more salespeople like you.About the Author:Jacqueline Sidman, Ph.D., is an author, speaker and life coach, founder and president of The Sidman Institute. Dr. Sidman has more than 15 years of experience helping others overcome life challenges. She is author of Instant Inner Peace!, an expert on eliminating phobias, addictions, relationship problems, career struggles and health issues. The Sidman Solution® is her trademark system to solving emotional and physical difficulties without medication or long-term therapy. For more information, please visit: or call +1 949 251 9550.

Read more about:

Free Newsletters for the Channel
Register for Your Free Newsletter Now

You May Also Like